Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Recognizing the essence or creator within.

I was born with ability to see both the visible and the energy worlds. As a kid I thought that everybody saw the world that way. I would feel and see what the plants wanted and what changes needed to be made for the fruit trees to produce more fruits. I interacted with the energy fields of nature and at some point my mom noticed that. My parents had an acre of land and  mom started asking me where to plant and what kind of vegetables and berries. By planting “goods” where they “liked to be” (that is how I explained stuff as a 4 year old) amazing results were created . My parents were able to sell so much produce that it paid off the house and we got a new car.
As a kid I painted what I saw and later realized that I saw the essence of people (the best possible version, the energetic signature). We are born as individual manifestations of love with love’s energetic signature and a unique blend of ingredients to serve and live the life we are intended to live. The vision of our essence is very pronounced in the heart.. It  also outlines the barriers that people construct to protect themselves from recognizing their magnificence.
As a kid I was surprised that the concept of war existed. Since I saw interconnectedness of all in the energy and spirit field I could not understand why would people hurt each other. It is so obvious that we are actually hurting ourselves…literally.
It took me a while to realize that physical bodies was  all that a lot of people saw. When I discovered that I felt scared as if something was wrong with me, and I started to paint more and heal with art and energy.
My ability to interact with energy allowed me to feel deep connection and the possibility of what the world would be like if we saw our essences. I imagined that if we recognized ourselves as unique manifestations of love we would act from a completely different place. The illusion of separation and “not-good-enoughness” would not exist.
We misuse the word human. Somehow we see humans as limited and flawed, or we move on to the other side of the spectrum and arrogantly claim the top of the evolutionary chain (which shows that we feel flawed and want to hide it).
The reality is that a human is an incredibly beautiful creation that holds the creator within (like everything that is). However we possess the ability to choose and really transform the world around us.
I am wondering, if we consider the possibility of self-recognition (recognizing the creator within) how our life would be different…

Thursday, January 5, 2012

My Own Magic

All of you who is reading this post unites at least one thing: you are here. :-) So am I. From the moment we born ourselves here, we experience the influence of environment and people around us. We depend on parental love, care and provision. We identify ourselves in accordance of how we perceived by  authority figures in our life.
 How many of us had parents who were/are in harmony with themselves and the world around? Who loved us unconditionally, who saw and supported our inner magic?

I imagine not overwhelmingly high number of people.
In order to receive love we often learned how we need to be, we adjusted to get the necessary attention.

We thought that if only ... they saw me/I was more like.../ if I could do...(fill the gap with yours) we will receive more love and attention, and somehow our life will be better.

I wonder if we twist our inner magic as a result. We forget we have one inside of us and it is unique to us and it is our guide in life. We want the life we want, but the twisted and adjusted magic withing us doesn't light the way as naturally as it could.

And then one day we decide to re-discover this magic, and we go inside... because that is where it lives. And so the inner journey begins.

To create our own Universe we got to find our own magic. We got to invite ourselves to know all we know about ourselves by the nature of being universe in itself.
The word reverent resonates with me today. I choose to be reverent toward myself, my inner magic, my body.
This is the only appropriate way to treat ourselves, and when we able to feel reverent about ourselves we acknowledge the true nature of who we are. The choices get simpler, the flow of inner joy restores and the tapestry of "ordinary" things seeing as a perfect playground to bring your contribution (your magic) to. At last, we create world, that is magical to us, the relationship and life that feels beyond utterly satisfying ... we live the life we meant to be living.

reverently,
Yelena

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Privilege


Generally speaking, I am fascinated with human mind and heart. Today is one of those days when I get to experience my mind’s mystery and predictability at the same time. Something happened when I came downstairs this morning (and I didn’t really know what till later in a day). I noticed that at the end of the stairway I felt sad and kind of down. 

As someone who has been trained in differing my feelings successfully, I went about my day. And as someone who has been unwinding old pattern successfully (:-)) I was wondering in the back of my mind, what is going on. 

Somewhere in the middle of the day (in between writing and drinking tea) I realized that I felt “crappy’ the moment I saw the blinds drawn downstairs, in the office. The blinds were drawn …so what?

Well, apparently, for my mind, it meant something, and it meant secrecy. Somehow, the drawn blinds spin me for a down spiral into my childhood and all the unspoken secrets of the family dynamic. 

The moment I realized what was happening, I felt this inner WOW. I was fascinated one more time with brain’s ability to associate certain things with certain feelings based on past experiences. And after taking a few breaths, presence this discovery and feeling what is, I restored my inner joy.  

And it got me thinking how in the course of my life, with my each breathes I have an opportunity to reinvent my inner universe and thus create a different reality for myself. 

I can choose to create new stories or release them all at once, or live based on old beliefs, or transform them any way I choose to, and as soon as I become aware of them. 

I believe we all, individually and collectively, are in a perfect spot of the evolutionary spiral, of life itself. I am simply realizing again and again how our perception of the world, rooted in ourselves (our beliefs, our growth, our patterns, etc.). And this excites me over and over again. Because it means that by changing our thoughts, our emotional and mental state, our story, we can choose how we see the world and potentially change the world we live in.  

By choosing and acting out of love, we create more love in ourselves, our families and communities. 

Every day of my life, I have an opportunity to evoke the world that I love living in by creating the world I love inside of me first. 

What a privilege. 

with Love,
Yelena

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Thankful Recognition.

Today is Thanksgiving in the U.S., time when people collectively choose to focus on appreciations and giving thanks to family, friends and strangers.


As I went for a walk this morning, I was greeted by smiley strangers with wishes of “Happy Thanksgiving”. It seemed like Thanksgiving Day became a point of easy connection.

I believe gratitude is human’s natural state, and settling in a space of appreciation is wholeing (this is not a misspelled word; this is the word I made up). It originates from the word Whole, which dictionary defines as not broken, damaged, or impaired, containing all the elements properly belonging; complete.

And this is going beyond healing, because it says that there is nothing to fix, nothing is broken … this is simply Recognizing oneself as whole… Appreciation is direct, easy and a reliable way to settle in the place of wholeness where gratitude is the air that is breathed in and out, just as naturally as we… breathe.

I call Thanksgiving a Day of Thankful Recognition. We recognize all the good that we created and received in our lives, whether it is people, events, food, weather …etc. It is a great opportunity to shift from an old paradigm of how we perceive certain events/people in our life to an aware state of unity in gratitude.

To recognize is to perceive (a person, creature, or thing) to be the same as or belong to the same class as something previously seen or known (dictionary.com)  I love this definition!

As we give thanks, we recognize our belonging to each other, and therefore we can see fellow humans as allies.

We recognize the sameness, that underneath  all the visible and imagined differences we can get scared about, we share the universal desire to be loved and to be seen.

Here is to Thankful Recognition! I see you. I see me. I love you. I love me. I thank you and I thank me.

with deep love and gratitude,

Yelena Joy

P.S. Wonder what would happen if we choose to focus on gratitude every day of the year? of life?

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Two Lives or Embracing Polarities


                                                  
     Have you ever felt like you are living two different lives at once? Have you ever felt your head spinning because many conflicting emotions, questions and thoughts just flooded it completely? Have you ever been surprised by how oddly your preferences have changed since the last time you looked deeply inside yourself? I have. In fact, when I was a kid it happened to me every six months; particularly when, after spending a summer in the country, we went back to our apartment in the big industrial city of Omsk.
        We have all heard that our surroundings affect our lives dramatically, especially during childhood. By spending my childhood traveling between an apartment in the city and a dacha (summerhouse) in a village, I was equally exposed to two different lifestyles; and imbibed the polarities of two very different environments. Moreover, these two different lives, interlaced like two different ornaments, formed my preferences in a very contradicting way.
           Our summerhouse, as I said, was built in a rural area. Mom and Dad bought a piece of land and built a house with their own hands. My mom was an engineer -- she loved to plan projects and then build them. My father didn't understand anything in this subject, but he was willing to learn and do the all dirty and heavy jobs. So, I can tell they mixed fifty-fifty cement with love. It was not a big house, because at that time in Russia, you couldn't build a big house even on your own land. Nevertheless, when the
system changed with perestroika, my parents added on to the summerhouse and built a bathhouse with a sauna nearby. Everything in this house was very simple most of the furniture  brought from our flat in the city after we bought the new one. The extremely old leather couch was outside and despite the fact that it was too old, it was still in very good shape and very comfortable, especially for a four year old girl. All our neighbors knew each other, of course. There were about 40 houses around, each situated on over an acre of land and separated from the others by a low fence, trees or a river. Everywhere you could see there was lots of open space – the biggest difference from the City. Life in the country seemed to flow gracefully, slowly and peacefully. Time seemed to stop or became a very viscous substance -- you don’t feel the necessity to move fast. Therefore, people’s movements are smooth even when working in the yard or garden. Their talk is very steady, conversation longer and more intimate. Basically, you live like a community and communicate on a different level.  
           The absence of technology will surprise you: caravans of kids would usually travel from house to house and instead of using the phone, they would just shout into the air, “Mo-o-o-m, I’m at Max’s house.” An echo didn’t mind to work as a postman, and somehow it always delivered the message to the right destination. There are fewer worries in the village and more simplicity. Nature preserves its origin: there are no landscaped parks. Wildly growing trees and flowers, fields covered with daisies and bachelor’s buttons, a little river that almost dried out every summer -- all of it made you very close to the earth, nature and yourself, providing freedom for imagination and expression. Wearing a simple dress and hat, I used to run shoeless through fields of daisies and bring home huge bouquets of wild flowers.
   I tended to be more silent in this environment, but if I wanted to scream, I could do it from the top of my lungs like Tarzan, without being judged or misunderstood. Unbelievable pictures of the sunrise and the sunset uninterrupted by silhouettes of tall buildings allow you to have a panoramic view of the sky that much more fulfilling than IMAX.
  Villager’s language is more figurative and full of metaphors. When I was a kid, I thought they believed in fairytales. When I grew up, I realized that the absence of fear in the village made me feel that anything is possible. As an example: When I was born, my father planted a pine tree near the summerhouse. He had told me that I would be like this pine tree: healthy and wise. My spirit would be as strong as the tree's trunk; and my soul would strive for freedom, love and light like the pine tree's branches turning towards the sun. These words made me feel very strong and secure though I was just three years old.
     I also noticed that my hearing was enhanced in the village. I could almost hear the sound of a flying butterfly. There were no amusement parks or theatres. All we usually had for entertainment was a swing. I adored swinging on the swing that my parents made for me. I still remember how much trouble it was to make a seat for this swing. My father wanted to make it as cozy as possible, so he had tried all kinds of chair seats; but every time the simple wood board was a winner.
   My mom loved to grow all kinds of berries and vegetables, and they grew all over the place! When I was swinging, I could reach the raspberry bushes, pick a berry and eat it really quickly. It was fun! 
I was surrounded by love and it has taught me how to love and be generous. I realized then that if I have love I have everything. It seems that the “rural life” energy was just pouring on me, and I didn’t have to make any effort to absorb it, I would just soak in it like in the hut tub.
      But lo and behold, the school season would start, the weather became colder and we were on our way to the city. We put some of our belongings in the car, locked the house and started the journey to another life, “city life.” For a while the scenery would be village-like, but very soon the trees became thinner and shaped by human hands, the flowers organized in flower-beds, the asphalt started to have marks of white and yellow paints ; red, yellow and green “eyes” regulated all movements together with the stop signs and honking cars. As soon as we got close to the city, my dad always turned on the radio. I felt like my ears were immediately plugged, but soon my energy changed. My body and mind adjusted to the rhythm of the music, the city lights, and different type of excitement.
   The population of my city, Omsk, was 2.5 million at that time. Can you imagine all those people running around? They were almost literally running -- their movements were fast and abrupt, as if time had suddenly shrunk, and they were desperately trying to fit all their routine into one short day. I learned to walk fast without noticing anything but my destination at the moment. I adapted to the city noise. I and found myself choosing roses for my bouquets instead of daisies. And if in the beginning I would smell them, later I discovered that I would be more concerned about their looks.
   I think the city life is more visual in contrast to rural life that involves our feelings and all our senses. Village life develops our kinesthetic sensors -- the city is a perfect place for a social life. It blooms there like a sunflower. I love to go to the theatre and drive around the city at nighttime when the lights are on, especially during the Christmas season.
   Relationships tend to be more complicated in the city for some reason. People seemed to mean something different than the words they used to express their feelings. Intrigues and mysteries, special “rules” to charm someone, silly, sometimes almost insane rituals, would drive me nuts in the beginning. But very soon, I would find them interesting and play my role without even realizing the change inside. An uncomfortable feeling like I am not quite myself would bother me from time to time, but the desire to fit in and to be a part of the new life will win.
   The city life is more convenient: stores are very close and you have all kinds of variety in them; though the fruits are not as fresh as from your own yard, they are packed and even made into fruit salads. Any type of transportation is always available; any type of technology is always there for you. The business eats up time, age, serenity and freedom. We use more technology to free ourselves, but in reality grow more dependent on it. We use different vocabulary and tend to be more controlling. We select the types of flowers that are bigger and prettier, seedless watermelon and buying applesauce instead of an apple. All of a sudden, we have one more thing to worry about-nitrites and pesticides. 
     People live in apartments, in tall buildings; and strangely enough, it brings people close and separates them at the same time. Kids will be kids though. They still go from one apartment to another to play, but get more warnings from their parents about security
and strangers. It seems that people are more fearful in the city. Somehow, the city spirit has the ability to pull you out of the fairytale and drop you in a thriller, which is exciting but also can be more dangerous. I love some aspects of city life: the opportunity to meet new people, the merry-go-round of parties, holidays, theatres, lights, the need to dress up and even the fast rhythm of life. But as this fast pace keeps racing and asphalt keeps draining my energy, I feel all my body contracting and tense. I slip out of the city’s hands, and I rush to my summerhouse to give my soul a gulp of freedom and revive my body, to free my mind and create my fairytale, to amalgamate with the smell of wild herbs, flowers and fresh air. I feel the need to run in the corn flowered field to exhaustion screaming with all my might, meld with the surrounding feeling and, connected with myself feel my heart beating normally again.
   Sometimes I think of the City as a brain and Rural Area as a heart. Generally, people want to be sophisticated, smart, but in order for the brain to survive the heart has to keep it’s normal pace, its beats have to be sufficient to nourish the body. We strive for balance, and it doesn’t have to be “either/ or” It might be that the ability to incorporate “two lives” without damaging the brain or the heart is an art that one-day will reveal a master. Embracing the polarities is one of the fine abilities that human beings are capable of enjoying.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

When The Trees Were Big

This story is in celebration of my mom:

         " They say “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas,” but that’s not true for childhood. What happens in childhood doesn’t stay there -- it follows us. My childhood has followed me through the years, sometimes unrecognized as it silently rules or asks for attention. From time to time, it reveals itself intensely with a deep feeling of familiarity, sweetness, or pain. Childhood wants to be healed or remembered or to simply be.

           The long-awaited rain arrived in Santa Cruz today, mightily streaming down my window, cleaning the mirror of my past. In the twinkling of an eye, I saw my reflection in the life-mirror. I saw a five-year-old girl with two long, very thin braids, wearing a blue dress with small pink flowers on it. She looked ready to go to kindergarten.  
            Like many kids in Russia, from the age of two I went to kindergarten every weekday from 8 a.m. to 7 p.m. I called it “my second home,” and I loved this place. First, because my mom worked there, and we could see each other any time. Second, because great kindergarten teachers made us feel good, so we didn't miss our parents too much. Third, because we performed the best holiday shows dressed as fairy-tale characters along with our teachers. The teachers borrowed from the original very popular folk-tales and then added to it stitching the story together from their own imaginations. Thus, we created new folk-tales and eagerly anticipated the shows.

     Nevertheless, some “kindergarten rules” easily spoiled this idyllic kids’ life. For example, you couldn’t run in the puddles shoeless during the rain. In fact, we usually didn't go for walks on rainy days. That was understandable in autumn, but made no sense in a child’s mind in the summer time. I. I spent my childhood in Russia, in the big industrial city of Omsk, where the weather is hot in the summer, freezing during the winter, blooming and fragrant in spring, and opulently golden and sunny in the fall. 

Kindergartens used to be very popular in Russia. While parents were building “the bright future of socialism,” the upcoming generation socialized there. Every kindergarten had a number. Ours was #306. Later, on top of the door, appeared a sign reading Sunny Day, and we understood that now our kindergarten had a name instead of a number. The building seemed very big, not because we were small, but because it really was huge. It took up three blocks: one for infants up to one year, another for kids from two to five, and the last one for older kids from five to seven. Each block was divided into four sections, and each section contained an oversized bedroom, a bathroom, a hall with small closets for our clothes, an entertainment room, and the most important ingredient, about twenty kids. So, we had fun. In our building, the pink walls outside, children's pictures inside, and beautiful lushes plants around aquariums with small orange and red fish created a friendly, homey feeling. But even the “Barbie” look didn’t draw me as much as the smell of baking rolls and buns. A huge kitchen with professional cooks yielded the most fascinating fragrance that roused our appetites, and prepared us to enjoy every meal -- all four of them.  

That day began like one of the typical “second home” days for me. My mom woke me up and we walked together, holding hands, to the kindergarten located only couple of blocks away. As my mom hurried to work, her movements were precise and quick. I on the other hand, reflected the walk of many kindergarten kids: sleepy and slow. I kind of threw out my legs making a flapping sound on the asphalt, and I walked listening and flapping, listening and flapping.

Several important questions swirled in my mind, such as “Why do people wake up so early? Why do my steps make such a hollow echo? Why trees are so high but still can’t reach the clouds? And, of course, what did our cooks prepare for breakfast today?” As we entered the building the last question found the answer while the rest of them settled down till the next morning. Evidently, the mind’s hunger calms down with a fresh baked roll successfully at the age of five; adults usually need heavier drugs for that.
         Three lessons followed breakfast: math, painting, and language. Finally, we were released
outside until lunchtime. That was when this usual day began to change. While most of the
kids played actively and climbed up and down on the play structures, three “scientists” formed a group around the table. 

            “It looks like big smog from New York,” Misha said, pompously looking up at the big, black, fat cloud.
               “No! It is my uncle smoking his cigar.. My aunt always says that you can’t see the sky when he smokes,” parried Max.
                “It’s going to rain,” I almost whispered, enchanted. It meant that we were about to experience the extreme and rare summer event: a thunderstorm. Many children’s voices took up the idea: “It’s going to rain!” Instantly, we all started jumping, waving hands running, and squealing, highly excited. 

Five minutes later the wind strengthened, clouds partially covered the sun and the delighted kids enjoyed the scene. Blasts of wind tousled the green leaves and brought the smell of freshness and freedom. I spread my arms, breathing in the fresh rainy smell, then closed my eyes and imagined myself peacefully flying as a big white bird. The teacher interrupted my daydream by touching my shoulder to gather all of us inside the terrace. What a disappointment! Ten minutes later the teacher gently but surely pushed us inside for lunch and an afternoon nap.
After waking up refreshed we listened to stories, snacked away, played, drew, had dinner and entertained ourselves guessing whose parent would come first to pick up their kid. We stared through the huge windows outside and when we saw someone's parents, we waved our hands to them and laughed. My mom always came from inside the building, so I never got to wave to her through the window, but I always played the game.
That unusual day the downpour dimmed the windows so we couldn't see our parents arriving. My mom had come without an umbrella, so we decided to wait for the rain to stop or at least soften a little. We opened a door to the outside and watched the rain making big puddles. Big bubbles in the puddles looked exactly like bubbles in a pot of boiling water. It was mushroom rain because the sun was shining. In Russia, we believe that when this happens mushrooms grow very fast. I love mushroom rain. We waited for the playful rain to stop, but it wasn’t cooperating. Every time we tried to go, it started to rain harder and louder even with the sun shining. 

Suddenly Mom said, "Come on, let’s run home!" I saw her remove her shoes and I couldn’t believe it.
 Mom’s “Come on, let’s run home!” sounded like “Spread your wings, let’s fly!” I took my sandals off, and we ran in the rain. I felt so wonderfully excited and happy. I felt alive!

 We ran in the puddles shoeless! 

Mom was holding my hand and I could jump high, splatter the water, and scream. I felt warm water splashing all over me and sparkling in the sun. Clean, big, wet trees enjoyed the sunny shower and smelled like freshly cut grass. We laughed and ran. An overwhelming feeling of absolute happiness filled my little body completely.
This short run home happened to be long enough for me to realize that I didn't know my mom very well. I thought,” How nice that Mom didn't bring an umbrella." Of course, by the time we got home the rain had almost stopped.  We stood outside, soaking wet and couldn't stop laughing. I felt the little girl inside my mom and we understood each other without words. That day made my mom my best and dearest friend forever.
Years later, when I was in high school, I asked, "Mom, do you remember how we ran in the rain?"
"When?" she said.
"When the trees were big…" I answered.
My mom looked straight in my eyes with a warm smile on her face. Of course, she remembered. Some memories you never want to forget."

Friday, April 22, 2011

Underneath it all


I drove my dad to school this morning. He is learning English in the senior center. He was dressed up as a good Russian student would and eager to socialize. When he was getting out of the car, our eyes met and I felt overflowing, all-encompassing, beyond-my-body love for my dad. I have had splashes of this feeling from time to time and it seems like new possibilities open up with each wave of love.

My dad and I haven’t had an easy history together. I grew up torn between my parents and confused, not knowing how to love them both at those times when they hated each other. If I loved them both, did that mean I was betraying the other? Did I need to choose sides?
Even when there are hard questions and deep sorrow in childhood, there is always a particular beauty. Certain freshness, genuine curiosity, and a sense of adventure are the greatest gifts childhood has to offer, and I appreciate that I still feel a strong connection to that part of me.

In our family dynamic I was often the savior and peacemaker, assessing situations with the precision of a laser micrometer and acting to smooth family tensions. 
I remember two episodes that were particularly hard for me to forgive my dad for. One time my dad hit my mom and she fell on the bed like grass cut down in a field.   I was afraid she was dead, and sat on the bed, crying and shaking her, shouting “MOM!” over and over and over.  I don’t remember how long she was down (it seemed like an eternity) before she stood up, took her basket, and went to the garden to pick up berries and sing. Another time after a party at our home Dad got drunk and Mom and I went to spend the night at the neighbor’s place. My home became unsafe for me that day.

I was so angry with my mom that she continued to live with my dad and enable his behavior. I didn’t understand how they could get along for a while and then more drama would unfold again, and yet they still stayed together.
When my mom died at 63, I blamed my dad for quite some time, believing that if they had had a better relationship she would have chosen to live longer.  

I have spent more time with my dad since my mom’s death, and I’ve heard more of his side of the story. And the more I revealed to my dad how I felt and the more I listened the messier our relationship got for a while until it resolved. 

Somehow, somewhere underneath it all I discovered there is an eternal pool of love. When I with curiosity attempting to find the word to describe the love pool, I drop in between words and just sink deeper into the feeling of love. I sort of forget for a while what I was looking for, and instead just feel it deeply and become the love that flows out of me, through me and my lips smile, as this is all they can say. 

The good news is I’m not the first or only person who has experienced this pool of love beneath a world of hurt.  And if individually we can get to this point of healing and embrace everything in love, can we do it collectively? 

I imagine that underneath all of humanity’s major wounds, discrimination and wars there must be an even larger pool of love. Can we be brave enough to enter that pool? Can we be brave enough even to conceive that it is possible to step into love and create out of love-- regardless of the pain that has been experienced?

I realize it takes time -- and I believe as more people open up to the possibility it will become easier. 

How easily can I create delightful change by loving What Is right now?
How easily can we create delightful change by loving What Is right now?